When you think about your most precious memories, I wonder – do they involve things or people?
I’ll suggest that the most important things in life aren’t things at all; in fact the most important things according to Al Ritter in his book “The 100/0 principles of relationships”, the most important things are the relationships you have with family, friends and others. Research has shown that people who just have things aren’t very satisfied, while people who have many good relationships usually have a happy, successful life.
The relationships we create are absolutely critical to our success.
Brian Tracy suggests “Eighty percent of life’s satisfaction comes from meaningful relationships”
“Life is an echo- what you send out comes back” Chinese proverb
“If we are not a little uncomfortable everyday, we’re not growing. All the good stuff is outside out comfort zone” Jack Canfield, the co-author of the Chicken Soup series of books.
So how does the 100/0 principle work? You take full responsibility for a relationship and expect nothing in return. How’s that work you say? Try it and watch what happens!
Shift your thinking from “it takes two” to “I can and will take full responsibility to create a relationship with that person”
What is the key ingredient to a successful relationship? You may have guessed it already- it’s being able to firstly establish trust with the other person. Some refer to this as rapport. It means to “like” someone or to feel warmly about or to identify with them. Once you have established trust the next important step is to listen to the other person to find out what they are saying.
You need to listen -not just hear- what they have to say. Active listening is an art that you can learn and practice.
Suspend you tendency to judge what is going on, as it only gets in the way of learning valuable lessons and insights from the other person.
“A smile is the shortest distance between two people ” ~Victor Borge
Al Ritter’s tip to make every relationship better;
The 100/0 principle is more about what we feel in our heart space and less about what is going on in our heads. When we focus our attention on others instead of ourselves, amazing things will happen. If we have in our heart the desire to serve others ,our relationships will always be better, have more meaning, be more satisfying and be successful.
You can do this. It’s your choice. What you see, feel, hear and what you tell yourself are your choices. Choose wisely.
“It’s not what you do , but how much love you put into it that matters” ~Mother Teresa
What do you think?