Every single person is at some point in their life afraid of something, usually of many things.
This fear is normal and natural as it is there to keep us safe, to preserve life, prevent injury and guard against financial mistakes. The most common reaction to a fearful situation is the attitude of “I can’t!” The inhibitive negative habit pattern, the fear of failure and rejection that hold us back, is experienced physically, starting in the stomach, your muscles become tight and knotted and your
palms begin to sweat. When a person is really afraid they can experience a dry mouth and a pounding
heart. Sometimes their breathing become shallow. Fear paralyzes action. It often shuts down the
brain, our ability to think logically and cause the individual to revert to flight or fight mode.
Fortunately because fears are learned, they can be unlearned. We can choose to do things
differently to what fear would normally cause us to do. By acknowledging the fear and choosing to
visualise a positive outcome of “I can do this…” you can build your courage and confidence,
with little steps at first, until you reach the point where you can act, inspite of the fear, which
is still there, but because you have instilled in your subconscious mind an image of you dealing
with this situation confidently and competently. You can now stand up straight, open your
chest, breathe deepl, get your heart rate down to normal and move with confidence and courage and
do that which formerly would have sent you into a spin.
Remind yourself that “denial” is not a river in Egypt” ~Brian Tracy
The close companion of fear is worry.
It has been estimated that 99% of the things you worry about never happen. And most of the things
that do happen, happen so quickly that you never have time to worry about them in the first place.
The best course of action in these circumstances is to decide what you need to do to fix or solve
the problem and then take massive, purposeful action towards your chosen goals.
Courage is the ability to do something you know is right or good to do even though you
know it is dangerous, frightening or very difficult.
Large amounts of self-discipline are needed to deal courageously with all the fear-inducing
events of our lives. Self-discipline is the training and control of one’s self and one’s
conduct for the purpose of self-improvement. It’s a bit like reinforcing a desirable habit.
You do it continuously until it becomes familiar and second nature to you.
“Courage is not the absence of fear; it is control of fear, mastery of fear” ~Mark Twain
So when you practice the self- discipline of courage and decide to face any fear-inducing situation
in your life, your self- esteem goes up, your self-respect improves and your sense of personal value
grows. Let me know how you go with these suggestions and if you need any help , call me Colin
0419 568 043 or leave a comment here. What do you think?